merricat
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It is surprising how many people I have met who live by this creed. It seems to function as a peculiar example of 'negative faith' which may serve to protect (or prepare) the believer from all manner of eventual or potential disasters and ill luck.
I have a friend who once told me that she always expects the very worst to happen so as to shield herself from misfortune. Her reasoning is that the eventual misfortune then won't come as a shock, she will already have prepared herself for it.
I have a relative who is similar, except he actively seeks evidence (signs or omens?) of disasters to come, which overcrowds his experience of living in the present. To his mind, all medical, romantic and financial issues scatter a crumb trail of 'signs' before they inevitably happen. Not precognitive signs, just an absolute certainty or expectancy.
Is this an inbuilt faculty designed to fortify us with a sense of preparedness, or is it plain old negative thinking?
I tend to believe it is a destructive pattern of thinking, due to my own experience of observing certain outcomes in my life, and the thinking that preceded them. When I have expected the best, I have had a certain degree of success, as opposed to expecting the worst, which has created a kind of self confirming feedback loop of hopelessness.
Listening to my friend, it seems that this steady, low level stream of catastrophizing gives her a sense of control over her life. She admits that it is an inability to live with uncertainty. I am sure we can all relate to this.
There is a popular saying "Expect the best, prepare for the worst", but I have often heard it the other way around.
I have a friend who once told me that she always expects the very worst to happen so as to shield herself from misfortune. Her reasoning is that the eventual misfortune then won't come as a shock, she will already have prepared herself for it.
I have a relative who is similar, except he actively seeks evidence (signs or omens?) of disasters to come, which overcrowds his experience of living in the present. To his mind, all medical, romantic and financial issues scatter a crumb trail of 'signs' before they inevitably happen. Not precognitive signs, just an absolute certainty or expectancy.
Is this an inbuilt faculty designed to fortify us with a sense of preparedness, or is it plain old negative thinking?
I tend to believe it is a destructive pattern of thinking, due to my own experience of observing certain outcomes in my life, and the thinking that preceded them. When I have expected the best, I have had a certain degree of success, as opposed to expecting the worst, which has created a kind of self confirming feedback loop of hopelessness.
Listening to my friend, it seems that this steady, low level stream of catastrophizing gives her a sense of control over her life. She admits that it is an inability to live with uncertainty. I am sure we can all relate to this.
There is a popular saying "Expect the best, prepare for the worst", but I have often heard it the other way around.
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