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Missing In Action: Members Who've Gone Silent / Haven't Been Seen For Some Time

brownmane said:
Has anyone heard from @Aydee_Aitchdee recently?
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This member wrote a while ago to request that we delete their account and all of their content.

Obviously, we don't do that.

I advised then that their name had been mentioned on this thread and they might wish to contact those who have expressed curiosity.
 
Yithian said:
This member wrote a while ago to request that we delete their account and all of their content.

Obviously, we don't do that.

I advised then that their name had been mentioned on this thread and they might wish to contact those who have expressed curiosity.
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Well that's disappointing. I did enjoy her interactions. Hope that she is well.
 
Tempest63 said:
Do we know what upset her that much?
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I was wondering about that as well.

I once posted something about a reply to a posting of mine on the board by another member and he pm'd me apologising for 'upsetting me'. I was horrified that what I posted read that way. I didn't mean it like that at all. I pm'd him back offering my apologies as well for my lack of clarity about what I meant. All was resolved with civility by communicating properly.

My point is that sometimes what is posted and how it reads to others may not be the actual intentions of the poster.
 
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kesavaross said:
I was wondering about that as well.

I once posted something about a reply to a posting of mine on the board by another member and he pm'd me apologising for 'upsetting me'. I was horrified that what I posted read that way. I didn't mean it like that at all. I pm'd him back offering my apologies as well for my lack of clarity about what I meant. All was resolved with civility by communicating properly.

My point is that sometimes what is posted and how it reads to others may not be the actual intentions of the poster.
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I agree - so much nuance is lost in text, especially when we tend to be an ironic and sarcastic lot. Any upsets I've had with anyone have always been sorted out in a civilised fashion via pm. So many sentences can be taken in almost any way, (like 'I bet you have!' which could mean anything from extreme disbelief to absolute agreement) without inflection.
 
I'm usually in the archives, so have wondered whatever happened to Mark Bellis:

OP: I saw a rectangular, 8 pronged shape in the sky zigzagging around, turning into a tesseract before shooting off into the ether.
Mark Bellis: Sounds like a party balloon.

Love him, lol.
 
stu neville said:
No idea. He was pretty prolific (and articulate) then just upped and vanished.
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When did he last post? His profile is set to 'No Snails' or summat.

If he lived in Wales this might be him:

The obituary notice of Mark BELLIS

Sadly, passed away peacefully yet unexpectedly at Ysbyty Gwynedd on the 16th January 2024, aged 56 years.

Loving son of Margaret and the late Eric, adored brother, and brother-in-law to Karen and Shaune, proud uncle to Molly and Chloe, cherished nephew to Eric and Arvona and friend to so many.

Funeral service will be held at Colwyn Bay Crematorium on Friday 2nd February 2024 at 11.45am.
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Pure speculation on my part of course.

Another Mark Bellis of Dundee, NY died in September 2022.
 
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