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People Who Feel Wrong

Morning all been reading some of the stuff on the thread.My god there are some truly horrible scrotes out there.
Had my fair share of people like that.My wifes ex-husband was a really evil piece of work. Liked to give her and the son a good slap just to keep them in line.And the mind games .Anyway first meeting with him went like this.
Him what you doing in my house with the s..g
Me punch punch smack what did you call my girlfriend
Him sorry sorry mate I’m sorry I’ll just take my son and go
Me thumping him no you won’t now f..k off
Him sorry mate yeah sorry
End of problem
Advanced communication skills.
 
Thank yous all! Yup, the union are aware and will be formally involved next week. I am entitled to copies of the emails and will be having them ASAPto hand to my rep.
In fact I've already been given the ones I mentioned earlier.

Now that my excellent manager has moved my shifts to earlies I'm feeling personally much safer. I won't drop the matter though and will get stuck in as soon as the union are ready.

We work in an industry where one person can cause huge disruption if they disregard their own and others' safety badly enough.
It's not just about me.
I can't believe you're having to go through all this and hope it's sorted quickly.
 
Give us a random selection...

I think it's this one, nothing new -

I was working in a care home and in one particular room, I kept seeing my own face from the corner of my eye. Like a mirror, but when I looked head-on I couldn't find it.

This went on for some time until I eventually stood still next time I 'saw' myself and slowly turned my head towards the image. It was a small photo on the windowsill of the patient's family, including her granddaughter, who is a cousin of mine and closely resembles me. The image of the cousin was about the size of a stamp!

The patient was her 'other' granny. I didn't know this until I saw the photo close-up and recognised my aunt and cousin as I hadn't seen them visit.

Anyway... I watched for when the rellies came in and was able to quietly warn them that the patient was being sat up in bed and left with meals, on the grounds that she was being difficult and refusing to eat. This was not true as she was recovering from surgery and needed a lot of support.

So my advice was for the family to come in every day and feed Gran at least one meal or she would be allowed to starve to death. They did this and Gran did well and lived for a few years more.

(Funny, every time I see that auntie she makes a fuss of me and I always wonder why she is so affectionate. It must be because I helped her take care of her mother!)
 
That surprizes you? I'd be grateful and fuss over you too!

Aww, thank you! :D

I s'pose it was one of those 'word to the wise' moments, where you know something and tip someone off and it puts them right. You don't normally hear any more about it!

Come to think of it, a year or two ago I came across a 1950s photo of her late husband, my uncle, on a local Facebook page. I sent it to my cousin for Auntie in case it was new to them, and Auntie was bowled over!

(Sometimes people send me photos of someone close to me who's died and I am always full of gratitude. Little things can mean a lot.)
 
Hello, @escargot, how's it going with the man with the ghost girlfriend? Have they gotten rid of him?

Thank you for asking! He is still there but I've not had to see him since early this year when I started doing all early shifts.

The women are still afraid of him and them men continue to escort them in if he's there at night.
I have complained about him in writing and involved the union but nobody seems able to sack him, even though he has a record of this sort of thing.

He won't be bothering me any more though.
 
Im suprised that he is picking on the women, i thought, being as his spook GF is screwing around with other men that he would have a go at the men, but it seems that he is probably to scared to do that so he picks on the women, so it makes me wonder if this is real or not, his delusions, not your concerns i mean.
 
Im suprised that he is picking on the women, i thought, being as his spook GF is screwing around with other men that he would have a go at the men, but it seems that he is probably to scared to do that so he picks on the women, so it makes me wonder if this is real or not, his delusions, not your concerns i mean.

The whole thing is in his head and has no external logic! His 'spirit girlfriend' has no problem with the men. She is only jealous of the women.

He has apparently tried to explain all this by saying it was a story he made up to cover his abrupt move from his last workplace.
Not sure how that is supposed to work. Pleading insanity perhaps? I dunno.

I will never have to deal with his shit again so I don't care! ;)
 
I think it's this one, nothing new -

I was working in a care home and in one particular room, I kept seeing my own face from the corner of my eye. Like a mirror, but when I looked head-on I couldn't find it.

This went on for some time until I eventually stood still next time I 'saw' myself and slowly turned my head towards the image. It was a small photo on the windowsill of the patient's family, including her granddaughter, who is a cousin of mine and closely resembles me. The image of the cousin was about the size of a stamp!

The patient was her 'other' granny. I didn't know this until I saw the photo close-up and recognised my aunt and cousin as I hadn't seen them visit.

Anyway... I watched for when the rellies came in and was able to quietly warn them that the patient was being sat up in bed and left with meals, on the grounds that she was being difficult and refusing to eat. This was not true as she was recovering from surgery and needed a lot of support.

So my advice was for the family to come in every day and feed Gran at least one meal or she would be allowed to starve to death. They did this and Gran did well and lived for a few years more.

(Funny, every time I see that auntie she makes a fuss of me and I always wonder why she is so affectionate. It must be because I helped her take care of her mother!)
Care home near me has been closed down, suddenly. Failed another inspection. A neighbour worked there over 30 years.

During the whole first wave of the pandemic, she told me they didn't have a single case of the virus. Not one. But apparently shut down for a number of reasons, including they were thought to not take adequate enough precautions for the virus.

Meanwhile, smaller family run care home about a mile away - the one that employed our dodgy neighbour with the criminal record and pending animal cruelty charges - still going strong. One of their employees had a night out in the village pub, the evening after her 'rona test, recently. Subsequently found positive. So I dunno if it's spread to the old folk there yet, but they're still going strong and no-one's shut them down despite their ability to pick the worst locals as employees...
 
Care home near me has been closed down, suddenly. Failed another inspection. A neighbour worked there over 30 years.

During the whole first wave of the pandemic, she told me they didn't have a single case of the virus. Not one. But apparently shut down for a number of reasons, including they were thought to not take adequate enough precautions for the virus.

Meanwhile, smaller family run care home about a mile away - the one that employed our dodgy neighbour with the criminal record and pending animal cruelty charges - still going strong. One of their employees had a night out in the village pub, the evening after her 'rona test, recently. Subsequently found positive. So I dunno if it's spread to the old folk there yet, but they're still going strong and no-one's shut them down despite their ability to pick the worst locals as employees...
Sudden closure of a care home means something pretty dreadful has been going on. Owners do get plenty of chances to put things right, so suddenly having the plug pulled implies the home had it's 9 lives.
Whenever I hear about care homes I think of my own experiences dealing with relatives in such places and with the "benefit" of daily general updates on the industry by Ms petes who is an expert on the subject, I hope I never get to the point where I need this type of care.
 
Sudden closure of a care home means something pretty dreadful has been going on. Owners do get plenty of chances to put things right, so suddenly having the plug pulled implies the home had it's 9 lives.
Whenever I hear about care homes I think of my own experiences dealing with relatives in such places and with the "benefit" of daily general updates on the industry by Ms petes who is an expert on the subject, I hope I never get to the point where I need this type of care.

Some are exceptionally good at providing quality staff training and a high standard of care. The unfortunate thing is most of them operate on such a fine line of profit that any loss of profit will see a rapid decline in the standards of care.
 
Care home near me has been closed down, suddenly. Failed another inspection. A neighbour worked there over 30 years.

During the whole first wave of the pandemic, she told me they didn't have a single case of the virus. Not one. But apparently shut down for a number of reasons, including they were thought to not take adequate enough precautions for the virus.

Meanwhile, smaller family run care home about a mile away - the one that employed our dodgy neighbour with the criminal record and pending animal cruelty charges - still going strong. One of their employees had a night out in the village pub, the evening after her 'rona test, recently. Subsequently found positive. So I dunno if it's spread to the old folk there yet, but they're still going strong and no-one's shut them down despite their ability to pick the worst locals as employees...

https://www.ombudsman.org.uk/making-complaint/what-we-can-and-cant-help

If you are concerned.

The money is ridiculously awful in care homes. The work is stressful and staff are expected to put up with utterly terrible work conditions. There is very little in the way of clinical supervision, often the in-house training is poor.

Also, some places are run by an untrained mafia of health care assistants who turn a blind eye to very bad practice and if you go into those environments it's very difficult to make positive change, (unless you are young, handsome, dashing, with a roguish smile ;)).

Nursing has always been a bullying environment.

Registered Nursing staff are there because it's largely easier to professionally fly under the radar than if you worked for the NHS. No strict professional development stuff, lightweight polices and procedures. Good if you've got kids too.

There are though some bloody wonderful staff in care homes and during Covid with camera teams going in I have seen staff work with fuck all in the way of support and they do an amazing job.
 
https://www.ombudsman.org.uk/making-complaint/what-we-can-and-cant-help

If you are concerned.

The money is ridiculously awful in care homes. The work is stressful and staff are expected to put up with utterly terrible work conditions. There is very little in the way of clinical supervision, often the in-house training is poor.

Also, some places are run by an untrained mafia of health care assistants who turn a blind eye to very bad practice and if you go into those environments it's very difficult to make positive change, (unless you are young, handsome, dashing, with a roguish smile ;)).

Nursing has always been a bullying environment.

Registered Nursing staff are there because it's largely easier to professionally fly under the radar than if you worked for the NHS. No strict professional development stuff, lightweight polices and procedures. Good if you've got kids too.

There are though some bloody wonderful staff in care homes and during Covid with camera teams going in I have seen staff work with fuck all in the way of support and they do an amazing job.


I know my dodgy neighbour was sacked several months ago - but they employed her for 2 years before that. No idea how she managed the DBS. And no idea whether they can possibly have caught wind of the RSPCA investigation (she was torturing a puppy - we recorded it through the walls n a phone over a period of 5 weeks, and her voice is clearly heard but it hasn't come to court yet. I dunno if RSPCA would contact employers but I do know when we were giving our statement, and I told the Inspector where she worked, she was totally and utterly horrified). Interestingly when we told the council's Antisocial Behaviour Officer about it (as us being able to hear an animal tortured whilst sitting in our living room is ASB and should make them evictable), their reaction was "Well, people can be different professionally, than they are at home" - very odd when you think it's in the context of a woman torturing a puppy who works, not cleaning offices, but "caring" for the elderly. I told the council to strengthen our case to get her evicted but also because I thought they should have some duty of care for care homes and might act. I doubt they did as they were making excuses for her. We also rang social services - I also doubt they did owt as she doesn't seem to have been sacked until she did something to "the residents". Quite what we dunno.

That said, just before she was sacked, there was a lot of shouting about "the residents" - we couldn't quite work out what. So they probably overlooked the animal cruelty (til proven in court) but got her on something else she was doing. (Alcoholic, so stealing from their purses is my bet).

They continued to employ her even though she was being arrested for drunk and disorderly - upto several times in a week. But as she lives a mile from the village where the care home is, they never saw the police cars at 2AM and her being dragged into the back of a van, I guess. And they presumably let her out of the cells in the morning - and she went to work. If she'd lived in the village not down the road, it would have been all over the place, and she'd have been sacked sooner.

My son has a teenaged mate who works there and he probably let drop she was being done for animal cruelty. They can't not have known if the kid casually mentioned it but I dunno if he did - he told my son he thought she was a weirdo. But yes they gave the job to her despite her convictions. I have no idea how she could have done it but she did.

I've long since told my kids to shoot me rather than ever put me in a care home.
 
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Sudden closure of a care home means something pretty dreadful has been going on. Owners do get plenty of chances to put things right, so suddenly having the plug pulled implies the home had it's 9 lives.
Whenever I hear about care homes I think of my own experiences dealing with relatives in such places and with the "benefit" of daily general updates on the industry by Ms petes who is an expert on the subject, I hope I never get to the point where I need this type of care.
Yes it was in the local paper before for being put on some sort of special measures. The neighbour who worked there told me they had no idea they were about to lose their jobs. Odd how they cited their failure to protect residents against the virus when it didn't have a single case so it can't have been so terrible on that front. Then one a mile away is allowed to continue functioning despite employing someone with a criminal record, who's being investigated for animal cruelty. Can imagine the local headlines if/when the RSPCA case ever comes to court. It's sort of dynamite.
 
There are though some bloody wonderful staff in care homes and during Covid with camera teams going in I have seen staff work with fuck all in the way of support and they do an amazing job.

There are indeed, but often their work is subverted by employees who abuse, steal, sleep on duty and generally do all they can to sabotage the business. These characters are in a minority, but the effects of their actions can ruin a home.
I've always thought that the care profession is under rated and underpaid, staff flogging burgers seemingly being more highly rated by society than true caring carers. Sad indeed, but given that homes operate in a competitive business market, I don't know what the answer is.
 
There are indeed, but often their work is subverted by employees who abuse, steal, sleep on duty and generally do all they can to sabotage the business. These characters are in a minority, but the effects of their actions can ruin a home.
I've always thought that the care profession is under rated and underpaid, staff flogging burgers seemingly being more highly rated by society than true caring carers. Sad indeed, but given that homes operate in a competitive business market, I don't know what the answer is.
I think these homes were better run by local authorities and people's working conditions were better protected when their employer was a local council providing a valued service, rather than a money making business.

This whole massive place (the size of a small hospital - the buildings are huge) is now standing empty. Neighbour who worked there told me they had it cleared out in a couple of weeks. No idea how or where they have moved the 60 odd residents (it had the capacity for about 100, apparently). And all during a pandemic. I feel so sad for the residents and also their families - imagine picking up the local paper or clicking on a story online and seeing the care home where your loved one is, is a total shambles.

They still had a huge banner outside a few weeks ago trying to entice people to put their elderly ps in there or use it for respite.
 
There are indeed, but often their work is subverted by employees who abuse, steal, sleep on duty and generally do all they can to sabotage the business. These characters are in a minority, but the effects of their actions can ruin a home.

You pay peanuts, you get monkeys. That's how it is. Nobody who can do better works on the floor in care homes.
 
You pay peanuts, you get monkeys. That's how it is. Nobody who can do better works on the floor in care homes.
So sad. Elderly people deserve the best of care, and carers deserve the best working conditions and wages commensurate to their tough job. (I don't think for a minute the little care home in the village employing the local weirdos is typical, btw, I should have said that).

On a ghostly level - the now empty one near my house had a temporary morgue etc. (I guess that is standard in the care homes that have many residents close to end of life care - this one was almost more like an hospital than just a regular old folks' home).

And many a time I've seen them stretcher someone out at 2 AM.

So many people must have died there. It can't not have some kind of activity going on? Maybe I should walk over at night at look through the windows... (Like hell I will). And to get back on topic, those "people who feel wrong" - they end up needing care at the end, like everyone else. I can't imagine what it must be like, taking care of some psychopath as when a patient initially presents to medics, they have no way of knowing who that really is or what they're capable of, just that it's an old or frightened, or very ill human being.
 
The only way I'd disagree is in isolated communities that have a big old house that's been converted into a care home. For some people, it's just a close and convenient place to work.

In my experience though, that's another factor that works against good practice.
Transport issues mean that care homes that are out in the sticks might have to make do with whatever staff they can get. They tend to keep on less productive workers because they can't easily find replacements. I have seen this happen.

Care homes in towns and cities are likely to have a bigger pool of prospective employees to choose from who can get there easily on the bus or a bike.
This is helpful because the work is poorly paid and employees might not own a car.

I compiled a list of things to look for in a care home for people's elderly relations and location was right at the top.
 
In my experience though, that's another factor that works against good practice.
Transport issues mean that care homes that are out in the sticks might have to make do with whatever staff they can get. They tend to keep on less productive workers because they can't easily find replacements. I have seen this happen.

Care homes in towns and cities are likely to have a bigger pool of prospective employees to choose from who can get there easily on the bus or a bike.
This is helpful because the work is poorly paid and employees might not own a car.

I compiled a list of things to look for in a care home for people's elderly relations and location was right at the top.

I've had different experiences, with country care homes. People work there as it's convenient for both parties so you are not just getting folk who can't get a job elsewhere. Also a lot of the residents will be known to the people who work there - or they will be from neighboring valleys or villages. That means a lot as they are essentially extended family.

At the end of the day no matter where the place is it's down to the owner as to whether the place is any good or not.
 
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At the end of the day no matter where the place is it's down to the owner as to whether the place is any good or not.

Also, what the quality of the staff they can get is like. That's out of their control.
Having an extended family-type staff is also dodgy.
 
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