That's the way NT conversations work. For other people they can be more spread out, liking and acknowledging that we see connections that NTs don't, less pressured and so on.
It's one of the big stumbling blocks
Each group likes and values their own way of having conversations. NTs think we don't do things according to /their/ definitions and so are wrong, We think NTs spend a lot of time in vapid yapping and obvious social rituals which they deny when they are pointed out.
It's an NT world and so it's useful for us to learn the dance steps if we can. But when we gather together we are practicing socialisation only on a few occasions. Otherwise we are doing actual socialisation!