Staying Strong In COVID-19 Conditions (Tips; Suggestions; Advice)

Min Bannister

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You know, I actually haven't been out with many women,6 or maybe 7 , of which only three were anything like long term, despite the biker / rocker image I'm fairly shy, but every one of them had been abused by a bloke in the past. How depressing is that?
Well, it is in a way, but in another way it is good because they all got out of those destructive relationships. That is not always easy or even possible so really it is quite uplifting to hear of people who did. And even in the cases where the relationship didn't work, you will have showed them that not all men are abusive and that they can definitely do better.
 

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I don't think I can stand much more of this. I know some have different opinions and i'm not intending an argument, but if you live on your own and you literally don't see anyone else for three months you begin to wonder what life is for. I slightly exaggerate as because my dog injured himself I have been able to go into Liverpool once a week to take him to the specialist vets, and see my mate Phil while he is being treated. But I'm becoming seriously worried if I'm going to survive this. I planned out hanging myself from the bannisters night before last, but mustn't do it while the dog needs me.
As said by @cycleboy2 above, if you are feeling and thinking about harming yourself, get yourself to a GP, in contact with a Community Mental Health Team or in extremis (imminent danger), A&E. Also get in touch with your local council's Covid support team, you can arrange for phone calls from volunteers (check & chat).

As a long-term mental illness survivor I won't give you platitudes. See people, you need to be with people . Do you have a local church(es)? Do you have a garden? People can visit and be with you in our outdoor space if you have. Please talk to someone and reach out for help, it is there.

If you were closer I'd get someone to drive me over to see you!
 

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As said by @cycleboy2 above, if you are feeling and thinking about harming yourself, get yourself to a GP, in contact with a Community Mental Health Team or in extremis (imminent danger), A&E. Also get in touch with your local council's Covid support team, you can arrange for phone calls from volunteers (check & chat).

and they are all used to it, you won't be a burden, they don't have something else to do... you matter :)
 

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I do appreciate it so much. My parent's generation were the 'stiff upper lip' type. Part of the reason I'm in such a mess is pretending nothing was wrong for far too long.
KBO Brother.
 

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As said by @cycleboy2 above, if you are feeling and thinking about harming yourself, get yourself to a GP, in contact with a Community Mental Health Team or in extremis (imminent danger), A&E. Also get in touch with your local council's Covid support team, you can arrange for phone calls from volunteers (check & chat).

As a long-term mental illness survivor I won't give you platitudes. See people, you need to be with people . Do you have a local church(es)? Do you have a garden? People can visit and be with you in our outdoor space if you have. Please talk to someone and reach out for help, it is there.

If you were closer I'd get someone to drive me over to see you!
I am getting some help. I was kind of getting on OK until the dog got injured.
 

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I would just like to add my voice to all the others :oldm: :bpals::group:

@Cochise, I've been meaning to ask you, do you know the Hoy and Helmet pub in South Benfleet?
 

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I would just like to add my voice to all the others :oldm: :bpals::group:

@Cochise, I've been meaning to ask you, do you know the Hoy and Helmet pub in South Benfleet?
Oh yes. When i was courting my second wife we used to go there. I prefer the Anchor now. Though I don't know when i'll get down there again since my job ceased even before the full lockdown. (Contractor - they kick us out first).
 

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If you are able, could you help out in your community? Id like to but I cant do anything to put my Dad at risk.

But I am doing online volunteering.
 

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If you are able, could you help out in your community? Id like to but I cant do anything to put my Dad at risk.

But I am doing online volunteering.
i used to volunteer on the local tourist railway but of course that is shut down.
 

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Oh yes. When i was courting my second wife we used to go there. I prefer the Anchor now. Though I don't know when i'll get down there again since my job ceased even before the full lockdown. (Contractor - they kick us out first).
That was my local when I was in my late teens. It was a lovely old pub. Of historical interest it stood on or near the grounds of the Battle of Benfleet which gets a nod in that sexy Saxon/rugged Dane thing on tv.

The pub is said to have tunnels connecting to the church.

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I am convinced a second wave will happen in the UK.
This will cause lockdowns in a various towns and cities.
Probably mid-September.

So I have been slowly building up on essential supplies.
With each supermarket trip I buy that little bit extra: brown rice, pasta, frozen vegetables, dried legumes, tea, cleaning supplies, soap, toilet roll.
 
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People here in Victoria have been clearing the shelves panic buying again so I thought I wouldn't go for a couple of days to avoid the hordes.
 

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Another study indicating multiple layers are definitely recommended for DIY / homemade cloth masks ...
Homemade COVID-19 Face Masks Likely Need at Least 2 Layers to Be Effective – 3 Layers Is Better

Home-made cloth face masks likely need a minimum of two layers, and preferably three, to prevent the dispersal of viral droplets from the nose and mouth that are associated with the spread of COVID-19, indicates a video case study published online in the journal Thorax. ...

Several types of material have been suggested for these, but based on little or no evidence of how well they work.

A team of Australian researchers therefore compared the effectiveness of single and double-layer cloth face coverings (175 g/m² cotton fabric, with a thread count of 170/ inch) with a 3-ply surgical face mask (Bao Thach) at reducing droplet spread. ...

Nevertheless, based on their observations, a home made cloth mask with at least two layers is preferable to a single layer mask, they say, adding: “Guidelines on home-made cloth masks should stipulate multiple layers.” ...
FULL STORY: https://scitechdaily.com/homemade-c...-2-layers-to-be-effective-3-layers-is-better/
 

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So far the best illustration and explanation of why we should wear face coverings has been an advert by Uber. I find this very depressing
 

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In case you were wondering how to maintain a love life during the pandemic conditions ...
Coronavirus: Wear a face mask during sex and avoid kissing to reduce COVID-19 risk, charity says

People having sex with anyone outside their household should wear a face mask and avoid kissing during intercourse to prevent getting coronavirus, a charity has warned.

Avoiding face-to-face contact during sex, washing hands before and after and limiting yourself to one partner will also reduce the risk of spreading COVID-19, according to the Terrence Higgins Trust.

The sexual health charity said research showed 84% of people abstained from sex with anyone they did not live with during lockdown, but it is now "not realistic to ask people to avoid sex indefinitely". ...
SOURCE: https://news.sky.com/story/coronavi...to-reduce-covid-19-risk-charity-says-12046999
 

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A bit of support for the curmudgeons ...

All things in moderation - including optimism and a positive outlook ... Cheery positivism can be toxic when it flies in the face of obviously serious situations.
Time to ditch ‘toxic positivity,’ experts say: ‘It’s okay not to be okay’

In the midst of a raging pandemic and widespread social unrest, these days it can feel as if reassuring platitudes are inescapable.
“Everything will be fine.”

“It could be worse.”

“Look on the bright side.”

But as well intentioned as those who lean on such phrases may be, experts are cautioning against going overboard with the “good vibes only” trend. Too much forced positivity is not just unhelpful, they say — it’s toxic.

“While cultivating a positive mind-set is a powerful coping mechanism, toxic positivity stems from the idea that the best or only way to cope with a bad situation is to put a positive spin on it and not dwell on the negative,” said Natalie Dattilo, a clinical health psychologist with Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. “It results from our tendency to undervalue negative emotional experiences and overvalue positive ones.” ...

With data indicating that anxiety and depression, among other mental health problems, have surged to historic levels in recent months, adding toxic positivity to the mix may only exacerbate the rising tide of negative emotions by preventing people from working through the serious issues they’re experiencing in a healthy way, experts say. ...
FULL STORY: https://www.washingtonpost.com/life...ff8d16-e0c8-11ea-8181-606e603bb1c4_story.html
 
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