Stormkhan
Disturbingly familiar
- Joined
- May 28, 2003
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Thing is, it's good for people to gather the strength to speak out.
For right or wrong, decided in court or not, people should not be forced to feel they cannot restrain their cry.
This is freedom of speech - chuck it out from your being, be right or be wrong - but don't feel intimidated into staying quiet.
A 'close friend' of mine was subjected to incestuous abuse.
No way of proving it in court, no way of getting the abuser punished. She knew this and it, of course, it affected her mentally. She felt close and safe enough to tell me. I helped her leave her family home, get a place for herself, and move on - in a very small, gossipy town. She had no contact with her abuser after that, nor her mother - who was complicit in her silence - but stayed in contact with her siblings. She knew the abuser wouldn't be held to account but, as she said to me - "Just knowing someone else knew, and believed me was enough." It also meant that on the only occasion I had met him, in public, I had the ability to say to him straight "I know, you piece of shit, what you've done. And I'm going to make sure you don't do it with [female, younger sibling]. You are being watched!"
Ultimately, she felt relieved that she'd been listened to and believed. Nothing had punished her abuser - but it was something to know someone heard her scream.
For right or wrong, decided in court or not, people should not be forced to feel they cannot restrain their cry.
This is freedom of speech - chuck it out from your being, be right or be wrong - but don't feel intimidated into staying quiet.
A 'close friend' of mine was subjected to incestuous abuse.
No way of proving it in court, no way of getting the abuser punished. She knew this and it, of course, it affected her mentally. She felt close and safe enough to tell me. I helped her leave her family home, get a place for herself, and move on - in a very small, gossipy town. She had no contact with her abuser after that, nor her mother - who was complicit in her silence - but stayed in contact with her siblings. She knew the abuser wouldn't be held to account but, as she said to me - "Just knowing someone else knew, and believed me was enough." It also meant that on the only occasion I had met him, in public, I had the ability to say to him straight "I know, you piece of shit, what you've done. And I'm going to make sure you don't do it with [female, younger sibling]. You are being watched!"
Ultimately, she felt relieved that she'd been listened to and believed. Nothing had punished her abuser - but it was something to know someone heard her scream.