We're on the same page except you excluded that part from my post when quoting me Ogred where I also wrote that people (let's not be politically correct here, it is mostly men) abuse positions of power through sexuality .. no arguments from me there : "some wealthy men in positions of power act like teenage boys" is the bit you left out that I wrote that you've somehow left out. I'm not a rape or sexual assault apologist, abuse on this level is real and so is people playing on the fear of abuse in our current times to falsely claim they've been abused. The authorities will hopefully do their jobs properly and find out the truth and justice will be done.
Sorry Swifty, I didn't mean to accuse you of being a rape apologist, I'd have made a better attempt at what I said if I wasn't drunk. People this is why you shouldn't PUI.
I ignored "some wealthy men in positions of power act like teenage boys" as I was focusing more on the "wealthy men being targeted" part, and it didn't seem like the phrase: "some wealthy men in positions of power act like teenage boys" was fully acknowledging the seriousness of the situation to my (admittedly addled) brain at that point. That said, in the sober light of a few days removed it still reads a little as sounding a little trivial. I appreciate that that is not what you were saying or doing but that's my reaction, comparing adult men's behaviour to teenage boys could have all sorts of meanings. I have read and heard comments defending men accused of rape along the lines of "boys will be boys", God knows what that's supposed to mean.
There are limits to a text only medium, especially where people have never met and it's very easy to only half say what you mean, or express something with irony, or believe you've imbued something with full nuance, only to find you haven't. I feel like it happens to me almost every time I've made a longer or more "serious" post, it's also hard to anticipate other people's reactions to anything you write. I'm not trying to say "my interpretation is right and yours is wrong" or any thing like that, just that posting on forums is a bit fraught. Which is why I often keep things to knob based puns and innuendo, my only area of expertise. I hope I've expressed myself properly here but have the nagging feeling I haven't and that's on me, not anyone else.
I'm sorry to hear that you were falsely accused of rape, it's a serious problem and it undermines the experiences of those who have actually been assaulted or abused. I also agree with your point of taking anyone who makes accusations seriously, at least until any facts can be determined. A friend's ex was recently accused and the accuser quickly backed down, I don't think she was charged - as she should have been and he still had to spend many hours, mostly overnight, at the police station.
I may look a tad like a smurf but i will have cool eyes
