Spooky, it's like wading through treacle sometimes! Couldn't you just shake those parents!
As a kid I mistrusted all adults because I was used to kindness from my parents turning out to be false. What a handicap for a child trying to get an education!
Gave me a powerful insight though. I'm certain that there are people in the world who one day will remember me as someone who got through to them, just as some adults got through to me.
One of my jobs used to be talking kids to sleep. They were teenagers who'd been so badly abused, usually in their own beds and in silence, that the only way they could relax was to hear a woman talking about nothing.
I'd tell them all about my old camper van and how it broke down in Wales, and the mechanic who came to fix it stayed for his tea on Shell Island overlooking the sea.... and how my son burned the kitchen out at home by accident with the toaster and how I wasn't angry because, hey, nobody was hurt and he's my lovely son and he was sorry.... and how I had seven cats because people know I love them and would bring me strays and one lady tracked her cat all the way across town to me because it had been chased off by a big dog and ended up at my house and she brought a photo of the cat to prove it but I knew it was her cat because it made a fuss of her and I felt it was saying, what took you so long? and the lady cried for joy....
...and how my big son tried a little shoplifting in his school uniform and was chased across town and finally caught by a wheezing policeman who arrested him and the lad was cautioned, which did him a lot of good in the long run, and he joined the Army and the policeman became a family friend...
All ordinary family stuff, boring in the extreme. But boring is what these poor kids needed. Makes my blood boil. I HATE people who are rotten to kids.