brownmane
off kilter
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At times I'm kind of on the other side of the fence with this idea of communication with or from the dead. I do believe enough in self fullfilling prophecy that I'm almost superstituous about it. I in no way do not believe that these things happen, but wonder what is the cause. Is it really a person from beyond trying to communicate or, is it the people left behind who miss them so much, and wanting to remember them and maintain the connection somehow causing things to happen? I don't think that there is a way to even separate these two ideas.
But I'm also superstituous enough that I try not to place expectations on those who have recently died that they return in some way. I don't want to think that I may have hindered them in what they need to do. My husband died 8 years ago and I dreamt of him once several days later, that I might say was us trying to communicate. We were facing each other. I only saw him and viewed him as if I was really looking at him ie not seeing myself as a third person as often in dreams. The surrounding was nothing/darkness. Not threatening. He appeared confused and was trying to speak to me, but there was something between us that prevented sound. I simply said "I love you" and do believe that he couldn't hear it. That was it. I didn't dream of him for several years after. He didn't believe in afterlife and I sit on the fence depending on what day it is. I have never had anything that I can call a message or reassurance from him, but I also don't expect to.
But I'm also superstituous enough that I try not to place expectations on those who have recently died that they return in some way. I don't want to think that I may have hindered them in what they need to do. My husband died 8 years ago and I dreamt of him once several days later, that I might say was us trying to communicate. We were facing each other. I only saw him and viewed him as if I was really looking at him ie not seeing myself as a third person as often in dreams. The surrounding was nothing/darkness. Not threatening. He appeared confused and was trying to speak to me, but there was something between us that prevented sound. I simply said "I love you" and do believe that he couldn't hear it. That was it. I didn't dream of him for several years after. He didn't believe in afterlife and I sit on the fence depending on what day it is. I have never had anything that I can call a message or reassurance from him, but I also don't expect to.