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Minor Strangeness (IHTM)

maximus otter said:
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You know what I mean! Both parties sharing the housework and child rearing and not partitioning along gender lines. I made all my kids learn to use the washing machine and to cook basic meals - they regarded this as child abuse when they were young, but my younger son did feel very smug when he was the only person in his group at University who knew how to work a washing machine and cook. I couldn't believe it when he told me.
 
catseye said:
You know what I mean! Both parties sharing the housework and child rearing and not partitioning along gender lines. I made all my kids learn to use the washing machine and to cook basic meals - they regarded this as child abuse when they were young, but my younger son did feel very smug when he was the only person in his group at University who knew how to work a washing machine and cook. I couldn't believe it when he told me.
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Certainly the 20/30 somethings I know are all equipped, and are quite happy, to do the washing, cleaning and make fantastic meals. I suspect those who can't are probably in the minority now.
 
PeteS said:
Certainly the 20/30 somethings I know are all equipped, and are quite happy, to do the washing, cleaning and make fantastic meals. I suspect those who can't are probably in the minority now.
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I am hoping so. I think that the current life style necessitated by both parents needing to work to afford a mortgage is at least having a fortunate knock on effect. Mums are going out to work, Dads are having to do stuff around the house more. When I was young, mums tended to stay at home until youngest child went to secondary school. This led very much to housework/childcare falling to the mother, while the dad just went out to work and expected his meals on the table.

Of course, if you have a dad like my ex husband, they will expect the woman to go out to work and STILL do all the housework/childcare while all they have to do is go to work, but hopefully that attitude is changing and parenting is becoming more equal. We just have to knock the 'helicopter parenting' on the head and allow kids to learn through their mistakes, and it will all be good.
 
Had a rather disturbing experience early doors this am. Was sleeping downstairs cos the old gammy leg was giving me some gip and I didn't want to disturb Ms P. Suddenly awoken by name being called and "get up. get up". Name called several times after I got up and faded into loud sobbing. Thinking Ms P was in distress had to climb stairs on all threes but Ms P was sound asleep. Sobbing faded as I went back down, but couldn't sleep after that. Just a bit reminiscent of the incident 20 years ago which foretold what was going to happen. Gulp.
 
PeteS said:
Had a rather disturbing experience early doors this am. Was sleeping downstairs cos the old gammy leg was giving me some gip and I didn't want to disturb Ms P. Suddenly awoken by name being called and "get up. get up". Name called several times after I got up and faded into loud sobbing. Thinking Ms P was in distress had to climb stairs on all threes but Ms P was sound asleep. Sobbing faded as I went back down, but couldn't sleep after that. Just a bit reminiscent of the incident 20 years ago which foretold what was going to happen. Gulp.
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We have a thread about hearing your name called, as you'll know.
Are you up for reminding us about the previous incident?
 
There's a guy in town who I have spoken to on many occasions over the years, nice chap, a couple of years older, who I see outside his flat pottering about in the driveway of this old coaching inn - a local guy.

For the last few months he has been ignoring me when I walk past.

I saw him today and asked if I'd upset him in some way.

''Yes you have. You called me a dickhead''.

I pointed out that I most definitely hadn't, but he was adamant that I had - ''Five or six times, a few months ago''.

I said that he must have misheard me (it's not a word I'd really use and I haven't even said anything derogatory about him behind his back, let alone to his face, as for a start, I don't think he is one.

He wouldn't have it though.

I know he's got a few problems (haven't we all) and I don't mind being accused of something I've done, but I have never said that once, let alone five or six times.

I cannot comprehend why on earth he believes that I have said this.

Very odd.
 
Floyd said:
There's a guy in town who I have spoken to on many occasions over the years, nice chap, a couple of years older, who I see outside his flat pottering about in the driveway of this old coaching inn - a local guy.

For the last few months he has been ignoring me when I walk past.

I saw him today and asked if I'd upset him in some way.

''Yes you have. You called me a dickhead''.

I pointed out that I most definitely hadn't, but he was adamant that I had - ''Five or six times, a few months ago''.

I said that he must have misheard me (it's not a word I'd really use and I haven't even said anything derogatory about him behind his back, let alone to his face, as for a start, I don't think he is one.

He wouldn't have it though.

I know he's got a few problems (haven't we all) and I don't mind being accused of something I've done, but I have never said that once, let alone five or six times.

I cannot comprehend why on earth he believes that I have said this.

Very odd.
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You mention that he has sone difficulties. Does he have a diagnosed personality disorder?

I have a friend who has told me that along with being schizophrenic is diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder. She has also experienced several other difficulties throughout her childhood.

Occasionally when she is not doing well she has accused me of something I have not done to her. She will swear at me and say she wants nothing to do with me. I give her time and she will, sometimes a week later apologize to me and say that she misunderstood something.

Perhaps this person may have some difficulties you are not aware of. Don't take it personally. If he believes this, there will be nothing you can do or say to change his mind.
 
brownmane said:
You mention that he has sone difficulties. Does he have a diagnosed personality disorder?

I have a friend who has told me that along with being schizophrenic is diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder. She has also experienced several other difficulties throughout her childhood.

Occasionally when she is not doing well she has accused me of something I have not done to her. She will swear at me and say she wants nothing to do with me. I give her time and she will, sometimes a week later apologize to me and say that she misunderstood something.

Perhaps this person may have some difficulties you are not aware of. Don't take it personally. If he believes this, there will be nothing you can do or say to change his mind.
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I think you may have hit the nail on the head B.
I am not exactly sure what he has been diagnosed with (I though it was 'just' depression), but that could be it.

Thing is, I've spoken to him many times over the last few years, but thinking about it, a lot of people he talks about (including his family) are painted as 'backstabbers' and such like.
 
Floyd said:
There's a guy in town who I have spoken to on many occasions over the years, nice chap, a couple of years older, who I see outside his flat pottering about in the driveway of this old coaching inn - a local guy.

For the last few months he has been ignoring me when I walk past.

I saw him today and asked if I'd upset him in some way.

''Yes you have. You called me a dickhead''.

I pointed out that I most definitely hadn't, but he was adamant that I had - ''Five or six times, a few months ago''.

I said that he must have misheard me (it's not a word I'd really use and I haven't even said anything derogatory about him behind his back, let alone to his face, as for a start, I don't think he is one.

He wouldn't have it though.

I know he's got a few problems (haven't we all) and I don't mind being accused of something I've done, but I have never said that once, let alone five or six times.

I cannot comprehend why on earth he believes that I have said this.

Very odd.
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He made it up for attention. He certainly got yours!
 
It's hard to work out why some people turn against former friends.
Two of mine fell out a couple of years ago and one has blamed the other's husband as being rude to her.
He really is a kind and helpful person and when I've asked that friend- the wife she says it never happened.
I don't see or even talk to the former much these days as I haven't been driving but she has lost quite a few friends and even relatives over the years.
 
Iris said:
It's hard to work out why some people turn against former friends.
Two of mine fell out a couple of years ago and one has blamed the other's husband as being rude to her.
He really is a kind and helpful person and when I've asked that friend- the wife she says it never happened.
I don't see or even talk to the former much these days as I haven't been driving but she has lost quite a few friends and even relatives over the years.
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Personality changes can be a sign of the onset of dementia.
 
escargot said:
Are you up for reminding us about the previous incident?
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No, sorry. Actually I think I might have solved the thing. Turns out that immediate neighbour is going through a very bad time and has been crying through the night. Possibly my subconscious heard the crying and decided I needed to wake up and do summat. Half asleep and in a lot of pain I didn't recognise that the sobbing which was loud was coming from next door (hopefully). That's my explanation and I'm sticking to it, the alternative not being something I can face at the mo.
 
I kept thinking about my cousin's wife this morning but didn't ring then as she usually gets up late.
When I rang she was in hospital, having spent the night there and she was waiting to be picked up.
I had thought she would be better than she was on Friday and it's all from being prescribed the wrong type of antibiotics.
 
catseye said:
Personality changes can be a sign of the onset of dementia.
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One of my friends who was always a very proper person and devoted to his family suddenly started telling me really off colour jokes and complaining his daughter was stealing from him. The final straw was when he was sitting at a table in a cafe and accused someone sitting opposite him, who he didn’t know, of talking about him. Dementia is a terrible thing.
 
Sogna the cousin I went to the funeral with last week has a brain injury from a work accident. I hadn't thought he was too bad until we were waiting for the hearse to leave for the cemetary and he asked where it was going.
I told him that it was going to the cemetary and he asked if he was going to be circumcised.
I just told him that it was a burial.
 
Minor weirdness this morning. Reading a blog to look for some books to take on holiday with me in a couple of weeks. One review of an old crime novel by Ken Bruen and Jason Starr called Bust that I thought sounded like my sort of thing. About an hour later I went to the bookshelf looking for a book and there sat a copy of Bust by Ken Bruen and Jason Starr. It’s in a plastic cover and is an odd format (smaller than usual paperbacks - see pic for comparison. It’s possible I bought this a couple of years ago and forgot about it but why haven’t I seen it on the shelf before?

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A strange thing happened to Ms P's daughter and her partner saturday morning. They were contemplating getting up when daughter heard a voice very close to her- it said "have you got the inhaler?". Thinking it was said partner she asked what he was on about but he denied having spoken but also said he had also heard the question. Two things - no one else in the house at that time and no one in the house uses an inhaler. Daughter now convinced that the place is haunted and is a touch perturbed.
 
PeteS said:
A strange thing happened to Ms P's daughter and her partner saturday morning. They were contemplating getting up when daughter heard a voice very close to her- it said "have you got the inhaler?". Thinking it was said partner she asked what he was on about but he denied having spoken but also said he had also heard the question. Two things - no one else in the house at that time and no one in the house uses an inhaler. Daughter now convinced that the place is haunted and is a touch perturbed.
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Could it have been spoken by 'im as 'as no teeth?
 
PeteS said:
A strange thing happened to Ms P's daughter and her partner saturday morning. They were contemplating getting up when daughter heard a voice very close to her- it said "have you got the inhaler?".
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Is it a flat or terraced house with thin walls? It's amazing what I have heard through walls, floors and ceilings. Might have been a snippet through radio or baby alarm?
 
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I took our dog for a walk before. We went to turn down a ginnell and a man with a dog was coming the other way. She abruptly stopped, turned round and we went a different route. The man crossed the road and passed us and Dolly acted aggressively I assumed at the dog. She has never reacted like this to any person or dog.

As he passed I got a really unpleasant and threatening vibe off him. There was nothing obvious to cause this reaction, but it overwhelmed me. I have never felt this before. I wanted to be far away from him. It feels like our dog was reacting to the man and not the dog.

Do dogs have a sense of someone being deeply unpleasant and potentially a threat that we don't pick up on? I have no idea but it was bloody strange.
 
Spudrick68 said:
I took our dog for a walk before. We went to turn down a ginnell and a man with a dog was coming the other way. She abruptly stopped, turned round and we went a different route. The man crossed the road and passed us and Dolly acted aggressively I assumed at the dog. She has never reacted like this to any person or dog.

As he passed I got a really unpleasant and threatening vibe off him. There was nothing obvious to cause this reaction, but it overwhelmed me. I have never felt this before. I wanted to be far away from him. It feels like our dog was reacting to the man and not the dog.

Do dogs have a sense of someone being deeply unpleasant and potentially a threat that we don't pick up on? I have no idea but it was bloody strange.
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I think dogs have senses that are beyond our comprehension.
I mentioned this a while back;

Last week, the dog took me for my walk and we tried to do a route that we have done hundreds of times over the last eight years.

We walk up the main road for a short distance until we are opposite a turning into a cul de sac. Usually she pulls me to get over to the other side and I have to run to keep up. Once we are over we have a choice of paths to take.

As I left the house, I thought to myself that for a change, I will stay on the main road for a bit longer and get on the canal further up instead.
When we got to our usual crossing point, I had changed my mind and decided to do the same route we always do after all.

As I was about to cross over the main road, she rooted her bum to the floor.
I asked her what was wrong and she looked up the main road in the direction I had originally intended to go and would not budge until I set off that way.

She had somehow read my mind as we left the house.
 
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