OldTimeRadio said:
‘Deathbed phenomena’, are surprisingly common. According to recent research at King's College London, around 10 per cent of the terminally ill or those caring for them report some kind of mysterious, inexplicable event that gives them a glimpse of an afterlife.
My maternal grandmother reported dead relatives gathered around her "deathbed," including her parents, aunts and uncles, and even a baby brother who'd died more than 60 years earlier at age two.
I put deathbed in quotes, since Grandma recovered and lived several years longer.
Did she ever describe what they looked like? Or was it a felt presence? How did she recognize the people, in other words - did they look like they did in her memory? at the point they died? Was the baby brother still a two-year-old?
Not sure it means anything, though - assuming them to have really been her relatives, they might have been (a) appearing as they really were; or (b) appearing as she would recognize them. In the case of (b), it tells us nothing about what existence after death "looks" like.
<warning: religious dogma ahead!>
This is all quite interesting to me, because as a Christian, I do believe in
something after death, basically because the faith teaches it. I believe (trust) the Church because I've encountered the Risen Christ in many ways, mediated through my family from childhood and through the Church & its sacraments, but it's still on the level of personal experience. I believe the proclamation of the early Christians that they saw Jesus in a resurrected form - and if you read about that in the Gospels, it was both familiar and strange (more on the side of strange, though). For me, the reason Jesus' Resurrection matters is that he didn't go back to just being God - he remains forever fully God and fully human. As such, his Resurrection really does tell us something about our own destiny. But precisely what, I haven't the foggiest clue! I don't over-spiritualize it, though. I don't think we have a ghost inside our bodies that is freed when our bodies fail. So I have trouble imagining how we might go on without our bodies, unless in some way our consciousness can exist apart from our brains, which makes no sense to me.
It's not just a Christian or even religious issue, though. For those of us who believe in an afterlife, how do we reconcile that with the fact that for all we can tell, our consciousness is entirely dependent on our material brain? Is it just the personal experiences that cause us to believe (trust) that there's something we just don't know/understand yet, that wouldn't contradict science at all?
[eta: I only believe in an afterlife as a concession to my faith, though. I always preferred to fade into a welcoming oblivion, but that's not the Christian view. But faith is trust, and I trust that whatever's after death is worthy of my desiring it because it will be Christ. I only add this to do my little bit to dispel the notion that those who believe in the afterlife are engaged in wishful thinking. My own wishful thinking would be for non-existence.]