Mr. Banooka
Abominable Snowman
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This TED talk on Autism was enlightening.
Both my wife and I were very much anti-labelling, but we’ve learned that without those labels you don’t get any help.
KIS has become something of a mantra for me for the last few years. I have tried to pass on this approach to my sons and they are gradually realising it's benefits in certain circumstances. Pity the rest of the world nowadays endeavours to make life far more complex than it needs to be.I've not thought about it in that way before, thank you for the idea! I don't think I'm exceptionally intelligent - but I do have a gift with reading, words, spelling and language.
The utter irony is that I have (unusually for a female) a (now) mild stutter/stammer speech issue. It was awful when I was young, and maybe affects how my tone is perceived still. If I didn't have that handicap I could have had a lifelong career as a voice actor, TV announcer, narrator or compere
Thank you for your replies and insights above this post, I do very much appreciate them.
My big tip is - keep everything as simple as possible. 'Good Enough' is now my standard for most things. Keeping It Simple [KIS] means a heck of lot less proverbial ball-ache in my own situation.
That's appalling neglectful treatment on the part of the NHS, tantamount to gross negligence. You have more than enough to contend with I guess but I'd be sorely tempted to write a letter of complaint to the hospital and/or the Care Quality Commission.We took our eldest to a psychiatrist privately because the NHS wasted 18 months to tell us he didn’t have ADHD. At this point he was easily 2 years behind academically. She spent 10 minutes with him and said that with 100% confidence that he had ADHD and that he was very likely to be Autistic as well. We got him privately tested for ADHD and it showed he was in the 98th percentile. During his test he moved 40 metres in his seat over a 20 minute period. This was in the middle of lockdown so you can imagine what homeschooling was like. We then had to pay privately for his medication because the NHS wouldn’t accept a private diagnosis. we had to start the NHS assessment again so that they would take over the issuing of his medication. It took another 12 months of £100 per month on medication before a more seasoned doctor read through all the notes, spent 5 minutes on a zoom call with our son, and concluded that she had no doubt he had ADHD and would take over his prescription with immediate effect.
We started the ASD assessment around the same time as the last round of ADHD reassessment. It took some time, and we were convinced that they would come back with a negative diagnosis. However, around March of this year, they confirmed that he is Autistic.
With our youngest son, he has more of the ’traditional’ ASD traits. It was school that recommended we have him assessed. This took place during the upheaval of lockdown, so took some time to be completed. But late last year we got the ASD diagnosis.
Both my wife and I were very much anti-labelling, but we’ve learned that without those labels you don’t get any help.
Yes exactly, utter nonsense. Private diagnosis/care won't go on your NHS records as we found out recently to our astonishment. (so computer says it never happened). Sounds much more like "I can be arsed to investigate further" type approach. Abysmal patient care.Me too.
(And WHY wont they accept a private diagnosis???)
Ms PeteS recently attended a conference held by a health care regulatory authority. Some of the remarks made by senior NHS staff were so appalling that she wondered how they were allowed to be employed in the care sector. As you say a lottery as to whether you get the care you deserve,Sadly - tragically - it's often a lottery, a matter of good or ill luck: e.g. I had no problem getting an assessment, yet I know some in my area have been told to wait from two-to-eight years(!)
It's very hard not to be appalled by glib, arrogant, ill-informed opinions like "You cannot be autistic because you're female". We should expect educated views from healthcare professionals, not this attitude of "I know best (even if my knowledge is actually ignorant and outdated in matters wholly beyond my field of expertise". It's not bloody good enough; nor is it uncommon.
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@Frideswide
Thank you for your help in this thread.
You are seen as jumping the queue! It's pathetic. We didn't quite believe it when the private psychiatrist told us they might refuse the diagnosis.Me too.
(And WHY wont they accept a private diagnosis???)
I'd like to publicly acknowledge my gratitude for your generosity in helping me make sense of all this, and I also now do think I'm one of us. Have done for quite a while now, in fact. I'm still not really sure why I went for the official diagnosis, although given that I'm currently drowning in work-related paperwork and marking, it might be that I had half an eye on reasonable adjustments...@Krepostnoi FWIW, and as a non-medically qualified person, I think you're one of us and easily one of us, if you see what I mean? *
"The Autistic Community"'s accepts self-diagnosis. This acceptance is a considered, humane, political and necessary act.
* Adding that we've talked 1:1 as well as in the open so that I have grounds for this!
That's interesting. Our local CAMHS rejected my younger child's diagnosis on the ostensible basis that it was unclear what methods had been used to reach it. She had been diagnosed by the leading neurodivergence specialist in the Republic of Ireland at the time, a well-known and respected figure. This has had a very negative impact on her, and she has opted to simply turn her back on seeking any further support, e.g. by invoking Right To Choose. I am livid, because I was impressed that she had been able to ask about finding support now in readiness for what we hope will be a forthcoming college place next year for her to do her GCSEs. Instead, she's going to embark upon it with similar levels of scatteredness to those which are affecting my ability to manage my workload. "First, do no harm," huh?You are seen as jumping the queue! It's pathetic. We didn't quite believe it when the private psychiatrist told us they might refuse the diagnosis.
That's terrible.That's interesting. Our local CAMHS rejected my younger child's diagnosis on the ostensible basis that it was unclear what methods had been used to reach it. She had been diagnosed by the leading neurodivergence specialist in the Republic of Ireland at the time, a well-known and respected figure. This has had a very negative impact on her, and she has opted to simply turn her back on seeking any further support, e.g. by invoking Right To Choose. I am livid, because I was impressed that she had been able to ask about finding support now in readiness for what we hope will be a forthcoming college place next year for her to do her GCSEs. Instead, she's going to embark upon it with similar levels of scatteredness to those which are affecting my ability to manage my workload. "First, do no harm," huh?
Perhaps sadly (I really don't know) I've reached a point where I no longer behave in certain situations to avoid conflict.I realised I was on the spectrum in late life - when having it officially diagnosed would be pointless.
Always remember that knowing your autistic or not, you learn coping mechanisms that allow you to function happily in life. I knew others thought differently from me and soon gave up making them think the way I do. I learned to behave as if I thought like them, just to avoid conflict.
I'm very glad that Mr Morris brought all this up. However, unfortunately he's conflated mental ill-health with Autism.
I should stick to posting about things I actually know about...like my stooopid 'Save the Cats' campaign.Has he? The Mental Health Act is what contains the current provisions which are being applied to autustics. It has to be reframed, and possibly the autistic bit removed if change is going to happen. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.
Talk about WRONG.Half of All Children Will Be Autistic by 2025, Warns Senior Research Scientist at MIT
OMG! This is a horrid story. Not only is DNR a very personal and difficult decision, who the F thought that all random PEOPLE living in a specific setting should be assigned one?A widespread view about "autistics" as a group. Eugenicists lack only the authority to proceed.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-somerset-52217868
Interesting that. I eat virtually the same things at the same time every day. I take the same routes to places I go no matter what and dislike disruption to any other routine. I have wondered whether I have some sort of disorder or whether having lived a good few decades I now prefer the familiar to anything else.In passing...
I think the notion of the mass of autistic people being rigidly organised might be a myth.
Example:
I like to eat as healthily as I can. This should be a simple matter. But I cannot organise or stick to a straightforward routine of, say, a plan of breakfast cereal then a yogurt then some fruit etc etc. I can't 'see' this - the plan, the physical items - in my mind. Only a few iitems and yet the daily organisation seems too much for me to cope with, in prospect. I would actually welcome the routine.