Yep. My sister and I are close but our brother is not that close to either of us anymore. He married some weird anti-social woman who constantly criticizes everyone in the family. So it isn't him, except that he allows her to do it and it often is to our faces with him standing right there.
Had similar myself. Brother married someone who strongly reminded me of a British woman called Tracie Andrews, who famously stabbed her fiancé to death and tried to blame it on a stranger in a road-rage incident.
I grew up the oldest of 4 but our family was not normal, my youngest brother was not babied, he was ignored. I was expected to be the responsible one and I was, I catch myself with knee jerk behavior of making sure everyone is ok even when I shouldn't. My cousins grew up with 4 in their family and the oldest was a boy, he had 3 sisters and the oldest sister was the responsible one. Her younger sister was treated as their parent's baby, the middle sister was a goofball and more like their mother, afraid of what people thought.
Why do you think it should be recognized by the medical field? That makes no sense to me.
Alfred Adler put forward this theory in the 1900s.
What about all that chicken?
Well, I was the 'baby' of a family of 5 siblings. Two brothers, two sisters all far older than me.
I used to know an old boy who died a couple of years ago- always immaculately dressed- shirt, tie, jacket, trousers with a razor sharp crease and shoes polished like mirrors.
But like most things, the variables are too large to actually choose what kind of study should be done. For example, all middle children are not the same because (BECAUSE) all families are not the same. If one of the parents is insane or absent or abusive that negates any correlation you might get by adding that family to the study. I think you are fixated on something that you should have outgrown, you mentioned more than once that your parents ignored you. That was your perception, but if you went back as an adult to view what was actually going on in the family you might find that your parents were dealing with some extra stress or something and you were easy child, or they didn't actually ignore you, you just witnessed what you thought your other siblings getting attention that you wanted. There are all kinds of reasons that you grew up thinking that your parents ignored you whether they did or not. You need to examine why as an adult you are still fixated on that. What did you loose, what can't you get for yourself because of it? Now that you are an adult the onous is on you to resolve your inner turmoils.
I disagree. I can and do, still hold grudges from over 40 years ago.
I'd love to read that but it's a mass of text on my phone. No paragraph breaks.
As a friend of mine says: "No grudge too small."
Your wife is a smart woman. My saying, when something starts to really irk me is "in the grand scheme of things, does this really matter?" Most of the time the answer is "no".
I am not saying people don't, I am saying if you do (and I know from experience) that you need to accept responsibility for your feelings. You can hold a grudge but what does it serve you? Maybe it is time to let it go. And I don't think my comments to charliebrown had anything to do with holding a grudge, though now that you bring it up, maybe that is what he is doing, holding on to a childish feeling of neglect that may or may not have been more than his perception from his childish mind. Is that a grudge or is that a wound that you keep picking at over and over until it festers and makes you somewhat mentally unstable? Oh, but that is a grudge. So if you recognize it and it causes you pain, at this point no one can fix it but you.
Who appointed you Board Counsellor?
Oh, you feeling attacked? I am stating my opinion, a strong opinion, but it is my opinion. You don't need to do anything I tell you, but it is a good indication that I hit a mark by your response.
You thinking there is a medical reason that middle children are ignored is not opening up? You might pretend like everything is ok, but sometimes you post things that indicate otherwise.
