crunchy5 said:
She wants to start watching it on vid on Sunday morn, I don't know though will that spoil the magic?
Part of the fun of it is the scares. I have photos of me aged three or four watching Doctor Who. Three pictures in all. First picture, I'm sat on the settee. Second picture I'm kneeling behind the settee, third picture I'm in the corridor, peeking around the corner, on hands and knees. I didn't just hide behind the sofa, I went in a completely different part of the house to watch the blessed thing.
I asked my mum how she knows its Doctor Who I was watching, she says 'that was the only programme you watched like that. Every week you were the same.' And you know what frightened me more than the Daleks, than Horror of Fang Rock, than the Talons of Weng-Chiang? Tom Bakers eyes!!!
My mum said Doctor Who frightened me, but she knew I wasn't upset, I was just excited. It was that kind of a fright. So she didn't have a problem me watching it every week. It used to give me nightmares too, but here's the important bit, it's a family show. Which meant my mum watched it with me, which meant she knew what Daleks were or Cybermen, so she could tell me how best to deal with those nightmares while not spoiling the magic of the tv show. It's a family show which goes beyond the reaches of you all sitting together to watch it infront of the telly. It goes to your parents actually talking to you about it. Communication opens up, and the thing I remember that really settled me as a child was that my mum understood it. And it didn't frighten her, so... And, believe it or not, eventually, that made it okay. But I don't think I ever quite got over Tom Bakers eyes.
Of course, back in the mid seventies, we didn't have video recorders or digital box top thingies, so it was watching it on the night or nothing.
I'd say talk to the kids about the show after it finishes. And when you talk to them say 'did you find it frightening?' and if they say yes, you say 'but was it fun?'. Then, like last weeks episode, you'll hear them start talking about the horse or the chips from the week before. There are anchor points between the scares in the show that psychologically kids will latch on to and smile about or laugh about. And that's a great leveller. Always, in conversation, bring them back to the fun of it all. And emphasise, it's not fear they're feeling, it's excitement. You may find that makes the world of difference, and makes Saturday nights a deal of fun beyond just watching the show. Doctor Who works on the brain like giving kids fizzy drinks just before bed. Expect a calming down period. But, by communicating, talking about the excitement of it all, it'll defuse the situation quicker than waiting for all them chemicals from a fizzy drink to wear off.