Objectophilia / Objectum Sexuality: Loving / Marrying Inanimate Objects

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It's definitely some form of mental illness, although I'm not sure what.
Must cause some social problems for these people, even in Japan.

I agree, I don't know if it needs it's own classification or if it is a similar phenomenon to "stalkers", though without a victim.

One imagines the planes, chandeliers, lamps and Eiffel Tower aren't especially bothered by it any way.
 

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I agree, I don't know if it needs it's own classification or if it is a similar phenomenon to "stalkers", though without a victim.

One imagines the planes, chandeliers, lamps and Eiffel Tower aren't especially bothered by it any way.
I can kind of see the appeal if you really don't want anyone answering back.

Perhaps they have been badly hurt so find safety in a non talking building/tower or whatever they have developed an infatuation with.
 

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There hasn't been much research into objectophilia, but the studies done to date suggest it's not demonstrably correlated with childhood trauma or sexual abuse.

It does seem to correlate with social isolation, social awkwardness and / or shyness.

This survey study yielded notable correlations linking self-identified OS folks with autism and synaesthesia:

Simner, J., Hughes, J.E.A. & Sagiv, N.
Objectum sexuality: A sexual orientation linked with autism and synaesthesia.
Sci Rep 9, 19874 (2019).
https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-019-56449-0

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-019-56449-0

Another characteristic claimed to correlate with OS is a belief or openness to animism or animistic attributions (i.e., the notion that inanimate objects are imbued with spirits, personalities, genders, emotions, etc.).
 

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Aren't we all encouraged to form a connection to objects from our earliest ages? Teddy bears, cuddly toys, etc? Maybe some people never grow out of that "safe" relationship, which is essentially with yourself.
 

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There hasn't been much research into objectophilia, but the studies done to date suggest it's not demonstrably correlated with childhood trauma or sexual abuse.

It does seem to correlate with social isolation, social awkwardness and / or shyness.

This survey study yielded notable correlations linking self-identified OS folks with autism and synaesthesia:

Simner, J., Hughes, J.E.A. & Sagiv, N.
Objectum sexuality: A sexual orientation linked with autism and synaesthesia.
Sci Rep 9, 19874 (2019).
https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-019-56449-0

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-019-56449-0

Another characteristic claimed to correlate with OS is a belief or openness to animism or animistic attributions (i.e., the notion that inanimate objects are imbued with spirits, personalities, genders, emotions, etc.).
Interesting, thank you!
 

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Aren't we all encouraged to form a connection to objects from our earliest ages? Teddy bears, cuddly toys, etc? Maybe some people never grow out of that "safe" relationship, which is essentially with yourself.

Definitely! Whenever we wail for attention, the teddy bear (etc.) is immediately placed into our arms as a surrogate comfort. When I undertook clearance of the family home as executor of my late brother's estate I was asked how I was going to prioritize the massive task. I wasn't joking when I said my #1 priority was locating and securing my teddy bear, even though I hadn't seen it in circa 40 years.

We take pride in all sorts of inanimate objects that represent achievement, affluence, status or utility (e.g., vehicles). I've known skilled builders and craftsmen who bemoaned the loss of a cherished tool.

Our materialistic / consumerist social milieu fosters personalization of - and affinities with - our possessions, so I don't find it all that incredible that some folks might project such feelings onto objects that aren't their personal property. After all, advertisers have been promoting the association between joy and possessions throughout our lives.
 

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Definitely! Whenever we wail for attention, the teddy bear (etc.) is immediately placed into our arms as a surrogate comfort. When I undertook clearance of the family home as executor of my late brother's estate I was asked how I was going to prioritize the massive task. I wasn't joking when I said my #1 priority was locating and securing my teddy bear, even though I hadn't seen it in circa 40 years.

We take pride in all sorts of inanimate objects that represent achievement, affluence, status or utility (e.g., vehicles). I've known skilled builders and craftsmen who bemoaned the loss of a cherished tool.

Our materialistic / consumerist social milieu fosters personalization of - and affinities with - our possessions, so I don't find it all that incredible that some folks might project such feelings onto objects that aren't their personal property. After all, advertisers have been promoting the association between joy and possessions throughout our lives.

Yes but it's quite a jump from cuddly childhood comforts to a chandelier/rollercoaster/bridge etc as an adult. A workman mourning losing a treasured tool I can understand - it's something used over many years which serves a valuable purpose & has proved it's value. Whether they'd want to cuddle it is a different matter.
 

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Agreed ... I only wanted to illustrate how the basis for projecting affection / affinity onto objects is endemic to our modern / western / materialistic culture. The intensity and outlets for such predilections will occur in a variety of ways (or not) depending on individual differences and preferences.
 

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Definitely! Whenever we wail for attention, the teddy bear (etc.) is immediately placed into our arms as a surrogate comfort. When I undertook clearance of the family home as executor of my late brother's estate I was asked how I was going to prioritize the massive task. I wasn't joking when I said my #1 priority was locating and securing my teddy bear, even though I hadn't seen it in circa 40 years.

We take pride in all sorts of inanimate objects that represent achievement, affluence, status or utility (e.g., vehicles). I've known skilled builders and craftsmen who bemoaned the loss of a cherished tool.

Our materialistic / consumerist social milieu fosters personalization of - and affinities with - our possessions, so I don't find it all that incredible that some folks might project such feelings onto objects that aren't their personal property. After all, advertisers have been promoting the association between joy and possessions throughout our lives.
I recently misplaced my favourite hammer and i am genuinely distraught :(
 

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A novelist's interest in objectophilia.

The first known case was in 1979. Eija-Riitta had seen the Berlin Wall on television at the age of seven and, struck by its long, parallel lines, fell in love. She tied the knot on their sixth visit together, marrying the Berlin Wall and taking it as her last name—Berliner-Mauer. She regarded the tearing down of the wall as a catastrophe and slept with a 1:20 scale model until her death in 2015.

In 2018, Akihiko Kondo spent two million yen to marry animated pop-idol Hatsune Miku. Miku, a “vocaloid,” was developed in 2007 by Crypton Future Media. She serves as a mascot for a voicebank software, in which users can compose their own songs for the virtual character to sing and dance to. Miku stands 158 cm tall, sports teal pigtails, and has a suggested vocal range of A3–E5, B2–B3. She has appeared as a hologram at concerts, and as a doll at Kondo’s wedding. None of his family attended the ceremony.

These individuals are classified as objectophiliacs. Read: those who hold sexual or romantic attraction towards inanimate objects. It goes without saying, of course, that objectophiliacs are often the target of derision, mockery. But I’d like to expand on objectophilia a little bit, on that idea of love as well. Perhaps even argue that, ridiculous though they may seem, these cases are just the natural conclusion to the relationships the rest of us already hold.

My debut novel, Satellite Love, concerns itself with one such objectophile: Anna Obata, a 16-year-old girl in southern Japan who falls in love with a satellite. Like most writers, I imagine, the concept came to me before any notions of theme. Other than vague ideas of melancholy and escape, I didn’t understand exactly why Anna would fall for a satellite, nor the ultimate conclusions that would come from it. So it was that, through writing, I found myself drawn into the psychology of objectophiliacs. ...

https://lithub.com/objectophilia-on-the-people-who-fall-in-love-with-inanimate-things/
 

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I'm sceptical about these marriages to chandeliers and so on. I suspect they are simply manifestations of our era's most common mental health issue: Attention Seeking Disorder.

However, if we forget for a moment the "sex" with the object and the silliness of the "marriage" to it, how many of us have never acted as if we have some sort of relationship with an inanimate object?

Have you never patted your old and "faithful" car on the bonnet and muttered "Well done, old girl" after a long journey? Does your car have a name? Have you ever implored a recalcitrant motorbike to start? Every sailor calls their boat "she" and has a definite feeling that the boat itself is part of the crew. And if you count all this as "sentimentality," then fair enough, but when you stub your toe on a brick, do you swear at yourself, or at the brick?

If, like @Souleater , I had lost a favourite hammer, I would ask "where the bloody thing was hiding," rather than "where I'd bloody put it." (I hope you find it, by the way.)

There are few if any of us who have never acted towards an inanimate object as if it could hear us speak.
 

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I'm sceptical about these marriages to chandeliers and so on. I suspect they are simply manifestations of our era's most common mental health issue: Attention Seeking Disorder.

However, if we forget for a moment the "sex" with the object and the silliness of the "marriage" to it, how many of us have never acted as if we have some sort of relationship with an inanimate object?

Have you never patted your old and "faithful" car on the bonnet and muttered "Well done, old girl" after a long journey? Does your car have a name? Have you ever implored a recalcitrant motorbike to start? Every sailor calls their boat "she" and has a definite feeling that the boat itself is part of the crew. And if you count all this as "sentimentality," then fair enough, but when you stub your toe on a brick, do you swear at yourself, or at the brick?

If, like @Souleater , I had lost a favourite hammer, I would ask "where the bloody thing was hiding," rather than "where I'd bloody put it." (I hope you find it, by the way.)

There are few if any of us who have never acted towards an inanimate object as if it could hear us speak.
I talk to my orchids :hungo:
 

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At least plants are alive, and there's the idea that talking to them is good because of the carbon dioxide generated, though I doubt it's any more than is generated by breathing normally.
Yeah I suppose they're living/breathing things in comparison to a building or blow up doll or something like that.
 

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Bodybuilder Yuri Tolochko ...
Update on Tolochko - the famed poster boy for sexual objectophilia ...

He's recently indicated a willingness to enter a relationship with an actual flesh-and-blood human woman - provided she can accept his dolls.
Bodybuilder who wed two sex dolls is now open to dating humans

A Kazakhstani bodybuilder who wed his sex doll after a whirlwind romance is open to dating a human on one condition: They like his silicone soulmates as well. He dropped the bombshell on the UK-based “The Dating Show” on FUBAR Radio Friday, the Daily Star reported.

“I was in a real relationship in the past, about seven years,” said Yuri Tolochko, who infamously married his sex doll Margo in November after dating her for eight months. A self-professed “pansexual,” Tolochko can reportedly love anything from an “image” to a “soul.”

Nonetheless, “it’s interesting and important for me, and in the future maybe I will have a real person, but it’s important that she or he likes my dolls too,” the muscleman said. ...
FULL STORY: https://nypost.com/2021/05/31/bodybuilder-who-married-sex-dolls-now-open-to-dating-humans/
 

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In fairness I often think a relationship with, say...a plank would be MUCH easier than a relationship with another human.


I just don't want to shag a plank.
 

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I was going to say that I'd be hard pressed to find the difference between my last partner and a plank of wood, then I remembered that wood is warm.
 

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Along with the whole 'consent' thing - these people who seem to be marrying objects 'for a bit of a laugh' or for publicity or whatever... does that not 'cheapen' the whole idea of marriage? I'm not a huge fan or supporter of marriage, but surely there has to be a bit of solemnity about it? Otherwise it will turn into 'Oh, yeah, Ugly Mike, I married him for a bit of a laugh and to put the pics on my profile, I didn't really mean it and it's not a real marriage, is it?'
 

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Along with the whole 'consent' thing - these people who seem to be marrying objects 'for a bit of a laugh' or for publicity or whatever... does that not 'cheapen' the whole idea of marriage? I'm not a huge fan or supporter of marriage, but surely there has to be a bit of solemnity about it? Otherwise it will turn into 'Oh, yeah, Ugly Mike, I married him for a bit of a laugh and to put the pics on my profile, I didn't really mean it and it's not a real marriage, is it?'

I actually think they are sincere, they just don't interact with other people well and prefer a "relationship" with a object they can project a personality and reciprocation onto. According to the article, it might be a form of autism. Don't know what our resident autistics think of that, though.
 

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Screenshot 2022-01-19 231428.jpg

www.metro.co.uk/2022/01/10/woman-marries-the-colour-pink-after-dating-it-for-40-years

I still think this type of love affair is nothing more than installation-art-meets-over-indulgent-satire.....

Whilst marrying 'a colour' seems like a really extreme piece of pointless posturing to me..... I'm equally-puzzled by the concept of marrying yourself. Maybe I'm just a boring literalist with no imagination (ps I'm not)

www.metro.co.uk/2021/08/26/woman-marries-herself-to-defy-social-expectations
 

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Who gets what if they divorce?
True - she might be left a whiter shade of pale, by an adverse settlement. Whereas the colour's new suitor would then be in the pink...

And if one was to divorce oneself - well: you'd just be beside yourself with rage, if you found-out you'd been cheating on you. You might never forgive yourself- and you'd know that no-one was really to blame apart from you.....
 

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The World has truly gone mad, people will do anything for fifteen minutes of fame.


My friend has just got a bungalow, and i have been trying for hours to get thro to British Gas and Severn Trent, it is impossible, they backed up with calls, and the gas and electric needs turning on, someone else is going to try tomorrow as i was having a bit of a paddy, had to step away as i was getting a headache.
 

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This January 2020 news item describes a German woman's passion for the airplane of her dreams.

Here's a different German woman who's attracted to the Boeing 737 and wishes to marry one of the 50 model aircraft of that type she owns.
Woman who is sexually attracted to planes wants to marry toy Boeing

A woman in love with a plane insists her desire is not a flight of fancy.

Sarah Rodo, 23, even refers to the Boeing 737 as her boyfriend.

She flies on the aircraft as often as possible and has 50 replica models of the plane at home.

Sarah calls the Boeing Dicki and hopes to wed one day, even though it is illegal in Germany.

The Dortmund resident identifies as an Objectum Sexual, meaning that she is sexually attracted to inanimate objects. ...

She has also been in love with a train.

Sarah said: “My plane is called Dicki.

“I love everything about him, but particularly his face, wings and engine — they’re so sexy to me. ...
FULL STORY (With Photos): https://nypost.com/2022/05/31/woman-sexually-attracted-to-planes-wants-to-marry-toy-boeing/
 
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