been drinking, so pardon rambling
Menny ways indeed ^_^ James, you have very apt spelling errors
Everyone's looking for an identity at the end of the day. I know when I first came out as gay and started going to the local gay pub, I was so delighted to feel part of a community finally, and everyone was so sweet and friendly. Of course, all is not parades and roses, but I can understand where people find themselves acceptance and a sense of being a part of something
when they've felt like an outsider all their lives, they want to hang on to it.
As for people being defined by their sexuality as though gayness is all there is, think about how much, heterosexuals rattle on about their sexuality all the time, even if not directly - Think how much general conversation concerns who's doing who, who fancies who, who you fancy, your life, your partner, your kids, your divorce, your ex, your custody battles over the dog, who the dog fancies, etc, all indirectly involving your inclinations in some way. There's kind of a joy in finding you can finally do the same, even if people do think that all you do is talk about being gay - Goddamn it, all straight people do is talk about being straight!
It's just if someone gay mentions their bf/gf more than twice in one conversation, people who are slightly uncomfortable with it think "God, can't they talk about something else ever?" Of course there are insecure people who rattle on too much about it, but for true equality, gay people should be able to talk about being gay just as much as straight people remind you they're straight.
*hic*
And
[email protected] Dashwood said.
But! At the end of the day, we're all just messed up human beings, and who we choose to sleep with is entirely our own concern. I don't like telling people I'm a gay gal (Even though I've done it many times on the net - easier when you're typing) because it's a very personal thing to tell someone you don't know well, and frankly no one elses business. Hic.
I'm paranoid now about being a rambly-no-sense-lady